(Image: Jose Villa)
So, why, in my last year in my twenties, is this the right place for me? Five reasons.
IT'S GIVEN ME THE OPPORTUNITY TO LEARN MORE ABOUT MYSELF
It's so true that we never stop learning - especially about ourselves. Never lose interest and excitement in new experiences and tapping into a part of your personality that you didn't know was there. Being single into this stage of my adult life has allowed me to continue figuring things out on my own. It's been an eye-opening experience. In the last few months, especially, I've fallen back in love with where I live, the culture here, and my place in this world.
IT'S MADE ME TEST MY INDEPENDENCE
My daddy raised me to know how to do a lot on my own and take care of myself (for those times when he's not around). Still living alone (and two hours from my parents) there's something every day that tests my independence and makes me proud of myself.
IT'S GIVEN ME TIME TO DECIDE WHAT I WANT IN A SIGNIFICANT OTHER
Just when you think you know what you want...
If I could talk to my 16-year-old self, it's astounding the mistakes that probably would've never been made. My breakup several years ago also shaped my answer to the "what are you looking for" question. Communicator, traveler, creative - just to name a few. Never sell yourself short on knowing what you want.
I'VE BEEN ABLE TO WORK ON MY RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD
This has been the most significant piece of this experience for me. I never realized how far I had strayed from the path He was laying for me until I came back to it.
I COULD'VE SETTLED BUT I DIDN'T
If it means being single for the rest of my life, I won't settle. I've made myself that promise. I've seen what falling into the "biological clock" trap can do to people, especially women. Life is hard. Love is hard. And until it's a without-a-doubt moment, I simply can't do that to myself or someone else. You only get one shot at life - why not make this part of it completely magical?
I know there are so many of you out there like me who have doubts if you'll ever find someone who's made to care for your heart and do life with you. I don't have those answers. I wish I did. What I do know is that there are a lot of us in the world who aren't looking for perfection, but we do have expectations. And that's okay. Right now, at this stage of my life, there's something else that I'm meant to be focusing on and learning about. Timing is everything and nothing that's worth it, is ever easy.