Over the past few months, I've had the pleasure of meeting (in real life) so many bloggers that I've long admired and some that were new acquaintances for me. For the most part those "oh my gosh, I'm so excited we got to meet!" moments have been fantastic and completely made my heart burst to know that someone was as excited to meet me as I was to meet them. However, everything isn't rainbows and butterflies in this great big blogging community (#shock). And there have been a few moments that I've been let down. Either let down by first impressions or fake personalities or entitlement or just downright rudeness. I'm not really sure what I wanted to express today by writing these things down other than to simply get them off my heart and hopefully ease your minds if you're having some of the same feelings I do at times.
When I first started blogging about 3.5 years ago, I was wide-eyed and naive. I assumed everyone was the same in person as they were online. Why be any different? This isn't true. To those of you out there who still believe this - give it up. Most people are wonderful and make you feel like you've been friends forever - some, however, do not. Don't sacrifice your authenticity and genuine attitude just to be accepted by a certain person or group of people because you think that they're the "in" crowd of blogging. Believe me, it can get catty and it can bring you down really fast to waste energy on those moments.
If someone unfollows you, let it go (I'm still working on this myself, FYI). You are who you are. When people unfollow on twitter or instagram my first thought - well, you knew what you were getting when you followed. I share girly things, I post pictures of my nails, my jewelry, my outfits, and my dog - what you see is what you get. (As told to Shelby and Katie over the weekend) Don't tailor your tweets, your photos, your posts, your voice to fit into some "blogging box" that you think will make you popular or rise to the top or capture someone's attention. It's not worth it. And in the end, it won't last. It will becoming exhausting to be someone you're not.
I've often asked myself what the final goal is for those people who make choices to be catty or rude or entitled or fake. And, in all honesty, I still don't know. But it makes me sad for them.
I don't write posts like this a lot, but every now and then, I have a moment that I feel inspired to really share what's on my heart about blogging. I know there are many people who don't understand it, make fun of it - I suppose it's kind of like a really big sorority (without the stereotypes). If you made it this far, thank you for reading. I never intend to make people uncomfortable or share things just for the sake of having a post for that day. What I wrote here is from my heart and I hope that it inspires you all in some way - whatever way that best helps you be a better person and blogger. I'm all about keepin' it real around here.
Lots of hugs. xo
(This post was inspired by several heartfelt conversations that were had with the ladies I met this weekend.)
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