February 18, 2010

All By Myself.....

Don't wanna be, all by myself, anymooorrrre...

Cue the music.

Actually, don't. Because this is not how I feel at all! Just thought I would make you think for a second I was all 'woe is me, I need a man, blah blah blah...' You know me better, people!


It hadn't crossed my mind to address this on my blog. I didn't really think it was necessary. Until yesterday. Because if one person has these thoughts, maybe more people do too. Not that I feel I have to defend my life decisions to anyone for any reason, but I just want to lay it all out. Set it straight. Clear the record. Let you know what's really going on in my mind.

You may want to refresh your memory a little bit with this post before you continue reading.


Yesterday I was having a conversation with a friend. Somehow the conversation turned to my social life. Yes, the exciting social life that everyone who meets me wants to be a part of (insert sarcastic 'right' and roll of eyes here). No, my social life isn't quite as a exciting these days as it was when I was in college, but my priorities have changed a little since then too. As you all know, I'm currently pursuing my master's and working and coaching our middle school cheerleading squad.

Anyway, the conversation continues and turns to my relationship status (single, white female). He then tells me that he's 'worried' about me. I'm sorry, did I ask you for that?? If you haven't caught on by now, I was quite irritated. To suggest that I may not be satisfied with my life because I don't have a significant other deserves a kick in the a**, if you ask me. I then tell him this. Of course, then there comes the 'that's not how I meant it, let me explain' bit. He proceeds to tell me that he just doesn't want me to end up like him, always putting success before social life and romantic relationships.

Do you wanna know what I have to say to this?

Thanks, but no thanks for 'worrying' about me.


I just had a conversation with my parents about how happy and satisfied I am right now. For almost four years, I was tied down, and I realize now, not so happy. 

 I'm really, truly happy these days. If Mr. Chris Pine decides to walk into my life tomorrow and the heavens open and the angels sing the hallelujah chorus, then wonderful!! I won't say no. But I also won't cry if that doesn't happen.

The person God has chosen for me is going to be here. Sometime. Some day. When the time is right.

Right now, I hope he's thinking about where his girl is. But I also hope he's living his life to the fullest and loving every minute. I know I am. But when he finally comes along I know he is going to add to my happiness. And I can't wait to share every minute with him.


I hope you all are truly happy today, lovies.

{Photos via google}

26 comments:

Rasha said...

I love that you are happy single.. That is how it should be. We are meant to shine alone, and when that certain one comes by, we shine brighter... but it doesnt mean we are not already shining!

I love you. I love this post. I love your strength.. Mr. perfect will be along, when the time is right.

Brittany said...

I Love this post. It actually made me happy. I was talking to my friend about the same exact thing yesterday and I actually had a break down about it lol. I'm glad you posted this because it made me realize things. I'm glad you're happy and content with life :-) I'll get there soon enough haha.

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Kora Bruce [Dixie Lust] said...

AMEN SISTAH FRIEND!

Im such a stong believer being content in yourself and your existence whether or not you share that with someone else.

Whats with all this pressure on us ladies to get a boy and get married!?

ps. Im with Brittany too. I hate that I can't email you back. sad face.

All Things Cherish said...

Kudos to you for telling him! Who is he to judge and attempt to measure someone else's happiness?

PinkPolkadotAA said...

Good for you! You are beautiful and quite spunky, you are going to be just fine! Focusing on your own life and your happiness is the best thing you can do. Everything else will fall into place.

cris (cristal) said...

very gud qoute widh it were tht easy though.

-cris

Cherish said...

You are SO right. My brother-in-law is 30 and single. His family is freaking out right now. But, he has the same attitude as you. God will provide what he needs, who he needs when he needs it. Good for you for being happy and content. I, too, spent 4 years with someone who completely drained me of myself and was too stupid to realize it until after the fact. I vowed to never let that happen again. The I vowed I wouldn't get married until I was 30. Six months later God introduce me to Mr. Right. I was 20 when I got married. I kept my first vow, though hehe. God's timing is perfect and you have no reason to settle for anything less than the Prince he has lined up for you! xoxoxo

Taylor-Made Wife said...

Great post.

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Summer said...

You should be happy single! I wish I had spent more time enjoying it when I had it. Although I love Jimmy and my life now, it is just something TOTALLY different to be single and free.

Enjoy every moment woman!

Headbands and Hand Bags said...

Enjoy your busy life and cute self while you can! You have a great perspective!

Blondie said...

Good for you Julie! You are soooooooooo young and have sooooo much time! You shouldn't be in any rush to get married, etc. I am 33 and am just getting started and don't feel the pressure. It will happen when the time is right! Kori xoxo

Miss Janice said...

Good for you girl...be happy!

Ashley said...

Clearly this friend doesn't know you very well! I'm glad you set him straight (not that I would expect anything less!)

brooke said...

perfectly written lady!!! i love this post and that you have such an AWESOME outlook on where you are RIGHT NOW in this very moment in life...i am all too guilty of living in the future and not enjoying my place right now...admiring you lovely lady!!!

KJ said...

I just came across your blog and I LOVE IT! So appreciate you sharing your heart and being so real. I love your outlook and the way you are doing your think and finding joy and happiness in this season of life! Its way to short not too and you're right God is going to bring that special guy in your life in the right time until then LIVE! :) I'm your newest follower!

Anything Fits a Naked Man said...

Just for the record: after reading this post, I'm not worried about you at ALL!!

Morgan said...

Love your attitude! Similar things happened to me when I was single. It's crazy! If you're happy, you're good. And let's not forget -you are choosing to be single because you aren't settling! xoxo

Kelsey Claire said...

Just remember how amazing you are and how RUDE that jerk was. You are an amazing women!

Megan Elizabeth said...

love this post!!!! (it deserves that many "!"'s)

hope you have a lovely evening!

Miss Caitlin S. said...

I love it! I don't mean to sound all raging feminist but really you do not need a man to feel content. Have fun on your own first and when it's right it will come! :) I'm glad you know to stand up for your own sanity, go on with your bad self :)

anonymous prep said...

I'm a single gal and I agree with you entirely about this post! I decided a few months ago that I would rather be happy and single and in a healthy mental and emotional place, than be in a bad or unhealthy relationship. There are days though when I feel like the last single girl standing in my group of friends, but then I read posts like this and remember to enjoy what's happening now and not get too caught up in overplanning.

Who's that Gamine? said...

i'm so glad i found your blog because it made me happy :)

love,
mg

*whosthatgamine.blogspot.com*

amy said...

Amen, Amen, Amen!

I want to copy this entire post and post it on my own blog! ;)

VKT said...

I am so proud of you Julie. I agree with you....God has perfect timing. You come across as a beautiful woman inside and out. Blessings!

Silvia said...

Amen to that! I am single and happy right now in my life. I know that God has someone out there for me, we just have not met yet. But I have gotten that "Im worried about you, that you take your career over your social life speech" before. Stay strong and we single happy girls gotta stick together. Thank you for sharing Julie :)